From the category archives:

For Step Parents

Have you ever been on an extended vacation to a faraway place?  It’s so exciting.  You anticipate it for weeks.  You think about it all the time in the days leading up to the trip.  And then when you get there, you feel in awestruck by everything!  Everything that’s new.  Everything that’s different.  You enjoy […]



Another View on the Stepmom’s Bill of Rights

by Carolyn on January 18, 2010

I love the work that Jacque Fletcher does on her blog “Becoming a Stepmom“.  I did an interview with her (which by the way didn’t feel like an interview at all) where she made me so comfortable that I would have told her anything.  And she has written a wonderful book entitled “The Career Girl’s […]



Alienation can go both ways

by Carolyn on September 22, 2009

I was struck by a blog post this week.  This isn’t where I was planning on going with this second installment on parental alienation syndrome (PAS), but it is completely relevant and I think it brings up some interesting issues surrounding alienation in a family post divorce. The post is from a great blog called […]



Understanding parental alienation

by Carolyn on September 18, 2009

It’s always amazing to me the insight one gains when they actually experience something.  I truly believe and have said before that with no real point of reference, it’s impossible to really understand something.  You can be empathetic, understanding, critical or disparaging until the day grows long.  But without the actual experience you can’t truly […]



Thoughts on Wednesday

by Carolyn on September 3, 2009

I know, I know, it’s Thursday.  I’m not contemplating the day of the week.  I’m thinking about Dr. Wednesday Martin Ph.D., and author of the new book Stepmonster.  Someone who I started reading almost by accident and to be honest, I wasn’t her biggest fan.  But as with most things that create an emotional response […]



The rules of engagment

by Carolyn on August 25, 2009

The good old fashioned argument To fight or not to fight?  That is the question.  But don’t rush to answer because I’m adding another element.  To fight or not to fight….in front of your kids?  Yes?  Or would you go with no? There seems to be two camps on the issue.  The ‘no way’ camp […]



Who let stepdads off the hook?

by Carolyn on August 18, 2009

Stepmoms have an unfortunate image to shake.  Good old Walt wasn’t kind to them and he helped stick stepmother-hood with a legacy of connotations like wicked, evil, green eyed and (step) monster.  Many stepmothers feel like they’re hated before they even begin.  That no matter how loving and attentive they are or could ever be, […]



My life as a secret keeper

by Carolyn on August 5, 2009

You can tell me anything.  Really, you can.  And chances are I won’t tell anyone.  I am a secret keeper and even when you don’t expect me to keep your secrets, I will.   My first lesson in secret keeping was taught by a pair of socks.  No, that isn’t a typographical error.  My socks taught […]