From the category archives:

Growing up ‘blended’

Have you ever been on an extended vacation to a faraway place?  It’s so exciting.  You anticipate it for weeks.  You think about it all the time in the days leading up to the trip.  And then when you get there, you feel in awestruck by everything!  Everything that’s new.  Everything that’s different.  You enjoy […]



The Evolution of Trees

by Carolyn on March 12, 2010

Today, families come in all shapes and sizes. Same sex couples with children, step families, single parent households and extended family households are becoming a larger demographic than ever before and their numbers may even be eclipsing those of the traditional nuclear family. We are no longer a culture of Cleavers living as husbands with […]



The ties that bind

by Carolyn on October 18, 2009

I always wanted a full blooded sibling. For a couple of reasons. First, I always wished for someone to share the burden of being the last remaining relic of my parent’s marriage.  It’s hard feeling like an anchor around your parent’s ankles; tethering them to one another when they so very much wanted to be […]



The systems of family

by Carolyn on July 25, 2009

Every family has a system.  A set of rules and expectations with regards to communicating and interacting with each other.  And every family is different.  There are general types of family systems but families are like snowflakes.  Each one varying slightly or even greatly from another.  And if that weren’t specific enough, each pair of […]



House hopping

by Carolyn on July 6, 2009

Adolescent years are a challenge.  For everyone involved.  Young individuals searching, yearning for their  independence though not yet prepared to manage the cost/benefit scales of life.  Crazed parents hurt by their child’s sudden rebuttals and scared by both their loss of control and their child’s inability to make consistent good choices.  These years are typically […]




by Carolyn on July 2, 2009

It hurts my family to know that I never felt like I fit in with them.  Hearing or reading this truth is like a knife slashing across their chests.  I didn’t realize that until now.  Oh believe me, it hurts me too.  But I’ve been dealing with that knowledge since my parents remarried.  I’ve had […]