From the category archives:


The Evolution of Trees

by Carolyn on March 12, 2010

Today, families come in all shapes and sizes. Same sex couples with children, step families, single parent households and extended family households are becoming a larger demographic than ever before and their numbers may even be eclipsing those of the traditional nuclear family. We are no longer a culture of Cleavers living as husbands with […]



A Reconciliation

by Carolyn on February 15, 2010

It feels eerily the same as when I was ten. Waiting for a phone call that’s not coming.  Wondering what I did wrong.  Thinking that maybe the last time we talked I wasn’t nice enough, didn’t seem interested enough in his life, or that maybe somehow I upset him.  That internal dialogue is whispering through […]



Self Destruct?  Not Tonight.

by Carolyn on November 14, 2009

I can feel it coming.  Can you? My self destruction is looming in the corner.  Taunting me.  Ready to take over at  my slightest concession.  This is what I do.  It’s what I’ve done.  It’s who I’ve been. I’ll tell you a story. There once was a girl who had her whole future laid in […]



Understanding parental alienation

by Carolyn on September 18, 2009

It’s always amazing to me the insight one gains when they actually experience something.  I truly believe and have said before that with no real point of reference, it’s impossible to really understand something.  You can be empathetic, understanding, critical or disparaging until the day grows long.  But without the actual experience you can’t truly […]



The rules of engagment

by Carolyn on August 25, 2009

The good old fashioned argument To fight or not to fight?  That is the question.  But don’t rush to answer because I’m adding another element.  To fight or not to fight….in front of your kids?  Yes?  Or would you go with no? There seems to be two camps on the issue.  The ‘no way’ camp […]



The conflict and the resolution

by Carolyn on July 28, 2009

Most of us don’t seek out conflict.  Although there are a few who seem to revel in it’s flurry and rush, the majority desire only peace.  But being fallibly human and wielding our free will; conflict is undoubtedly inevitable.  We hurt each other’s feelings.  We make each other angry.  And we certainly don’t always agree.  […]



My river of rage

by Carolyn on July 16, 2009

A river of rage flows through me and I never even realized it was there.  A body of unexplored emotion, silently simmering on the edge of a rapid boil.  I’ve always considered myself to be above emotional outbursts.  Better than those who get swept into arguments culminating in screaming and slamming and crying and yelling.  […]



From a recovering perfectionist

by Carolyn on July 8, 2009

I am perfect. At least that’s what I’ve been trying to convince myself.  And I’ve been trying to convince you too.  For when I can’t win my own good favor, yours is the next best thing.  I am a perfectionist.  Which may seem irritating to you, but trust me, it’s downright painful for me. I’m […]