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The ties that bind

by Carolyn on October 18, 2009

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I always wanted a full blooded sibling. For a couple of reasons. First, I always wished for someone to share the burden of being the last remaining relic of my parent’s marriage.  It’s hard feeling like an anchor around your parent’s ankles; tethering them to one another when they so very much wanted to be [...]

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What is it you do, anyway?

by Carolyn on October 5, 2009

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I’m going to remain light here for today’s post again.  I’m riding a high after my little girl’s birthday party, which paled in comparison with my usual party planning endeavors but was spectacular nonetheless.  There’s nothing like a house full of family and friends to make a party successful.  My Claire looked absolutely gorgeous in [...]

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Cause and Effect

by Carolyn on September 29, 2009

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My parents met, got married and had me. I’m alive today and living a richer life than I ever could have imagined.  I’ll always be grateful to them for giving me my greatest gift – life. My parents got divorced. And I still feel a little sad, angry and hurt by that.  I sometimes wonder [...]

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When oh when does co-parenting end?

by Carolyn on September 12, 2009

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I think many co-parents have a bright shiny date in their future that they are waiting for like children on Christmas Eve.  Oh yes, I’m talking about that magical birthday that will signal the removal of so many thorns in their sides.  Although it’s not their own, it’s a birthday that they salivate at the [...]

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Suburban turmoils

by Carolyn on September 8, 2009

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Love that tagline! Have you ever read Lindsay Ferrier?  If you haven’t, you should.  She writes a column for the Nashville City Newspaper, maintains her blog Suburban Turmoil and has also blogged for Parents Magazine.  This lady is one busy writer.  With her being both a child of divorce and stepmother, I’m always interested to [...]

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Feeling wanted

by Carolyn on August 27, 2009

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As a child of divorce I’ve lived my life with one enormous fear.  The fear of not being wanted.  It still haunts me.  I’ve seen it haunt others.  Like a monkey on our backs that lays dormant for a while but wakes up at the slightest hint of confirmation.  I wish it wasn’t so.  I [...]

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Too much information

by Carolyn on July 30, 2009

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If I had to choose one word to characterize how I viewed my parent’s divorce as a child, I would have called it ‘amicable’.  That all too broadly used term assigned to divorces when the couple are not trying to tear each other’s throats out in public.  It doesn’t mean the divorce wasn’t painful.  It [...]

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The systems of family

by Carolyn on July 25, 2009

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Every family has a system.  A set of rules and expectations with regards to communicating and interacting with each other.  And every family is different.  There are general types of family systems but families are like snowflakes.  Each one varying slightly or even greatly from another.  And if that weren’t specific enough, each pair of [...]

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