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Step Family Life

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A reader asked me a question today and as I was responding, I noticed that my answer was looking less like a comment and more like a post.  I had hoped to write lots of these ‘How To’s’, so with the opportunity to write one presenting itself so blatantly, I figured why not put one [...]

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My life as a secret keeper

by Carolyn on August 5, 2009

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You can tell me anything.  Really, you can.  And chances are I won’t tell anyone.  I am a secret keeper and even when you don’t expect me to keep your secrets, I will.   My first lesson in secret keeping was taught by a pair of socks.  No, that isn’t a typographical error.  My socks taught [...]

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The systems of family

by Carolyn on July 25, 2009

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Every family has a system.  A set of rules and expectations with regards to communicating and interacting with each other.  And every family is different.  There are general types of family systems but families are like snowflakes.  Each one varying slightly or even greatly from another.  And if that weren’t specific enough, each pair of [...]

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House hopping

by Carolyn on July 6, 2009

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Adolescent years are a challenge.  For everyone involved.  Young individuals searching, yearning for their  independence though not yet prepared to manage the cost/benefit scales of life.  Crazed parents hurt by their child’s sudden rebuttals and scared by both their loss of control and their child’s inability to make consistent good choices.  These years are typically [...]

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The ‘step’ factor

by Carolyn on July 4, 2009

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Oh what a difficult road lies ahead for the person taking on the role of ‘step parent’.  It is a struggle.  An uphill battle. The experts give some insight on how to make it a little less painful but all agree that there will be mountainous bumps along the way.  They also list a number [...]

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Footnotes

by Carolyn on July 2, 2009

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It hurts my family to know that I never felt like I fit in with them.  Hearing or reading this truth is like a knife slashing across their chests.  I didn’t realize that until now.  Oh believe me, it hurts me too.  But I’ve been dealing with that knowledge since my parents remarried.  I’ve had [...]

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