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The Misalignment of Love

by Carolyn on October 6, 2010

  This past weekend, I had a poetic family moment. You know, one of those greeting card moments where you visualize a leather bound book opening to a picture of the exact scene you’re sitting in. It was Saturday morning and my husband and I were lounging in bed while our son, who as usual […]



What I Cannot Change…..

by Carolyn on September 29, 2010

The serenity prayer reads: God, grant us the… Serenity to accept the things we cannot change, Courage to change the things we can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.       ~Reinhold Niebuhr Such simple words that have transcended time and space because they describe at their very core what we all crave. Serenity, courage and wisdom. My […]



I heard this song at work today and I remembered that when it was released, I read that Kelly Clarkson had written it about the impact that her parent’s divorce has had on her since she was six years old.  But when Breakaway, this song’s album was released, I wasn’t as in tuned with all things divorce like I am now.  Today, I […]



How Does Divorce Affect Children?

by Carolyn on April 6, 2010

  How will my divorce affect my child? A lot of parents out there are asking this question and unfortunately there’s a problem with the answer.  The problem is that the ‘answer’ doesn’t really exist. The professionals don’t know. Two of the leading experts in the field, Judith Wallerstein and E. Mavis Hetherington seem to […]



A Reconciliation

by Carolyn on February 15, 2010

It feels eerily the same as when I was ten. Waiting for a phone call that’s not coming.  Wondering what I did wrong.  Thinking that maybe the last time we talked I wasn’t nice enough, didn’t seem interested enough in his life, or that maybe somehow I upset him.  That internal dialogue is whispering through […]



He’s got my whole world….

by Carolyn on January 21, 2010

Last Sunday, my husband and I were lucky enough to have a ‘date’ day.  I would have preferred a ‘date’ night, but I’m still tethered to my daughter Claire after seven o’clock, so a ‘date’ day it was. My mom and stepdad graciously offered to take the kids for the entire day, leaving my husband […]



The Dawn of a Decade

by Carolyn on January 11, 2010

I find myself dreading and avoiding that age old, over asked question this January. “What’s your New Year’s resolution?” I usually have one. In years past, I’ve answered with one of the typical and over used options like working out, losing weight, eating right and being organized. But this year I can’t even keep up […]



Eight years down…

by Carolyn on October 20, 2009

I grew up as a child of divorce.  And then I got married. That’s a big deal. Lots of children of divorce are petrified to get married.  Scared to repeat their parent’s mistakes.  Others think nonchalantly about marriage.  It’s something that can be undone, after all.  And then there’s lots of us somewhere in the […]