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Suburban turmoils

by Carolyn on September 8, 2009

Love that tagline! Have you ever read Lindsay Ferrier?  If you haven’t, you should.  She writes a column for the Nashville City Newspaper, maintains her blog Suburban Turmoil and has also blogged for Parents Magazine.  This lady is one busy writer.  With her being both a child of divorce and stepmother, I’m always interested to […]



I wrote this article for Vanessa Van Petten over at Radical Parenting It was an honor to be a guest author for such a fun and dynamic website! Experts are fairly unanimous in their support of co-parenting for children of divorce.  Both parents continuing to work closely together raising their children despite no longer being […]



The rules of engagment

by Carolyn on August 25, 2009

The good old fashioned argument To fight or not to fight?  That is the question.  But don’t rush to answer because I’m adding another element.  To fight or not to fight….in front of your kids?  Yes?  Or would you go with no? There seems to be two camps on the issue.  The ‘no way’ camp […]



Yesterday I read the most interesting article about children of divorce.  It discussed the impact of divorce and the issues that can arise from them dealing with an equal physical custody arrangement.  No new information really, as I happily skimmed along. And then I read it.  And I had to read it again.  All I […]



Nothing like a single mom

by Carolyn on August 10, 2009

My husband is gone right now.  Away on a camping/fishing trip that he takes every year.  This trip is a highlight for him.  Something he looks forward to literally from the time he returns home.  He takes a few of these trips each year.  A winter camping trip.   An ‘open the cottage’ trip.  He’s even […]



Too much information

by Carolyn on July 30, 2009

If I had to choose one word to characterize how I viewed my parent’s divorce as a child, I would have called it ‘amicable’.  That all too broadly used term assigned to divorces when the couple are not trying to tear each other’s throats out in public.  It doesn’t mean the divorce wasn’t painful.  It […]



The systems of family

by Carolyn on July 25, 2009

Every family has a system.  A set of rules and expectations with regards to communicating and interacting with each other.  And every family is different.  There are general types of family systems but families are like snowflakes.  Each one varying slightly or even greatly from another.  And if that weren’t specific enough, each pair of […]




by Carolyn on July 10, 2009

We all have our memories.  Some are good and some are bad.  A million little clips and images that when put together spell out our lives.  What is your very best memory?  Ok, that one can be difficult.  What is your very best memory of your parents? I think my parents might be surprised about […]