From a grown up child of divorce – practical guides and a place to rant
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Most of us don’t seek out conflict. Although there are a few who seem to revel in it’s flurry and rush, the majority desire only peace. But being fallibly human and wielding our free will; conflict is undoubtedly inevitable. We hurt each other’s feelings. We make each other angry. And we certainly don’t always agree. [...]
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Some people make me green with envy. I’m not talking about the wealthy, powerful or famous. Those qualities don’t impress me much. The people I’m jealous of are those who I call ‘the connected ones’. Not connected by way of influence; I don’t care much about that either. Connected emotionally; to themselves and to others. [...]
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I really love the website coparenting101. It was founded by Mike and Deesha; a divorced couple who are not only setting the standard for co-parenting but are gracious enough to share their journey through it’s trials, tribulations and successes alike on their website. Now I have rather strong opinions about co-parenting and putting the needs [...]
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I find myself dreading and avoiding that age old, over asked question this January.
“What’s your New Year’s resolution?”
I usually have one. In years past, I’ve answered with one of the typical and over used options like working out, losing weight, eating right and being organized. But this year I can’t even keep up the pretense [...]
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I grew up as a child of divorce. And then I got married.
That’s a big deal.
Lots of children of divorce are petrified to get married. Scared to repeat their parent’s mistakes. Others think nonchalantly about marriage. It’s something that can be undone, after all. And then there’s lots of us somewhere in the middle. Knowing [...]
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As a child of divorce I’ve lived my life with one enormous fear. The fear of not being wanted. It still haunts me. I’ve seen it haunt others. Like a monkey on our backs that lays dormant for a while but wakes up at the slightest hint of confirmation. I wish it wasn’t so. I [...]
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I am perfect.
At least that’s what I’ve been trying to convince myself. And I’ve been trying to convince you too. For when I can’t win my own good favor, yours is the next best thing. I am a perfectionist. Which may seem irritating to you, but trust me, it’s downright painful for me.
I’m not sure [...]
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Last Sunday, my husband and I were lucky enough to have a ‘date’ day. I would have preferred a ‘date’ night, but I’m still tethered to my daughter Claire after seven o’clock, so a ‘date’ day it was. My mom and stepdad graciously offered to take the kids for the entire day, leaving my [...]
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Adolescent years are a challenge. For everyone involved. Young individuals searching, yearning for their independence though not yet prepared to manage the cost/benefit scales of life. Crazed parents hurt by their child’s sudden rebuttals and scared by both their loss of control and their child’s inability to make consistent good choices. These years are typically [...]
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I am my own best kept secret. If you were to ask people about me, you would probably hear words like nice, stand offish, calm, snobby, funny and quiet. I’ve always been surprised by how people view me. Not by the descriptions of nice and funny; that’s exactly what I’m trying to portray. But the [...]
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