From the category archives:

The Pain of Divorce

The Misalignment of Love

by Carolyn on October 6, 2010

  This past weekend, I had a poetic family moment. You know, one of those greeting card moments where you visualize a leather bound book opening to a picture of the exact scene you’re sitting in. It was Saturday morning and my husband and I were lounging in bed while our son, who as usual […]

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  The perception that children of divorce are spoiled simply as a result of being children of divorce amazes me. Do people really think that or is it just something they say without actually realizing what they are saying? Even one of my favorite bloggers, Avitable recently wrote in a post that children of divorce were […]

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How Does Divorce Affect Children?

by Carolyn on April 6, 2010

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  How will my divorce affect my child? A lot of parents out there are asking this question and unfortunately there’s a problem with the answer.  The problem is that the ‘answer’ doesn’t really exist. The professionals don’t know. Two of the leading experts in the field, Judith Wallerstein and E. Mavis Hetherington seem to […]

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Divorce doesn’t hurt? Actually…it does.

by Carolyn on November 20, 2009

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Have you ever agreed with someone on a topic only to realize later, after closer consideration that you didn’t agree at all, and you wish wish wish you could go back in time and change your answer? Just me?  Oh. As a guest on the online radio show Coparenting Matters, one of the co-hosts Talibah […]

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Cause and Effect

by Carolyn on September 29, 2009

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My parents met, got married and had me. I’m alive today and living a richer life than I ever could have imagined.  I’ll always be grateful to them for giving me my greatest gift – life. My parents got divorced. And I still feel a little sad, angry and hurt by that.  I sometimes wonder […]

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Feeling wanted

by Carolyn on August 27, 2009

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As a child of divorce I’ve lived my life with one enormous fear.  The fear of not being wanted.  It still haunts me.  I’ve seen it haunt others.  Like a monkey on our backs that lays dormant for a while but wakes up at the slightest hint of confirmation.  I wish it wasn’t so.  I […]

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Nothing like a single mom

by Carolyn on August 10, 2009

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My husband is gone right now.  Away on a camping/fishing trip that he takes every year.  This trip is a highlight for him.  Something he looks forward to literally from the time he returns home.  He takes a few of these trips each year.  A winter camping trip.   An ‘open the cottage’ trip.  He’s even […]

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For the child of a bad marriage

by Carolyn on June 27, 2009

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I am lucky enough to already have a faithful reader and diligent commenter of my work here. And she’s not even a child of divorce! Something about my writing touches her as it has for a small handful of you who have reached out and shared your stories and feelings with me. I can hardly […]

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