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From a grown up child of divorce:

Two Steps Forward…

by Carolyn on March 15, 2010

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Confession time. I have to admit, I’m kind of disappointed in myself. When I started this blog, one of the first issues I wrote about was my lack of authenticity. How I had lost myself in an attempt to always be fulfilling the needs and expectations of others. Only showing the parts of me that [...]

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The Evolution of Trees

by Carolyn on March 12, 2010

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Today, families come in all shapes and sizes. Same sex couples with children, step families, single parent households and extended family households are becoming a larger demographic than ever before and their numbers may even be eclipsing those of the traditional nuclear family. We are no longer a culture of Cleavers living as husbands with [...]

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A Reconciliation

by Carolyn on February 15, 2010

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It feels eerily the same as when I was ten. Waiting for a phone call that’s not coming.  Wondering what I did wrong.  Thinking that maybe the last time we talked I wasn’t nice enough, didn’t seem interested enough in his life, or that maybe somehow I upset him.  That internal dialogue is whispering through [...]

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The Forum: Take 3

by Carolyn on February 1, 2010

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I know, I know. Here we go again. This is something I’ve been trying to get off the ground for as long as this website has been around. It’s just such a big part of my vision for this space, I can’t let it go. And I want so very much for it to be [...]

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The Dawn of a Decade

by Carolyn on January 11, 2010

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I find myself dreading and avoiding that age old, over asked question this January. “What’s your New Year’s resolution?” I usually have one. In years past, I’ve answered with one of the typical and over used options like working out, losing weight, eating right and being organized. But this year I can’t even keep up [...]

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Divorce doesn’t hurt? Actually…it does.

by Carolyn on November 20, 2009

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Have you ever agreed with someone on a topic only to realize later, after closer consideration that you didn’t agree at all, and you wish wish wish you could go back in time and change your answer? Just me?  Oh. As a guest on the online radio show Coparenting Matters, one of the co-hosts Talibah [...]

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Self Destruct?  Not Tonight.

by Carolyn on November 14, 2009

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I can feel it coming.  Can you? My self destruction is looming in the corner.  Taunting me.  Ready to take over at  my slightest concession.  This is what I do.  It’s what I’ve done.  It’s who I’ve been. I’ll tell you a story. There once was a girl who had her whole future laid in [...]

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Welcome!!  Again.

by Carolyn on November 9, 2009

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Well?  How do you like it? As you can see, I’ve been busy as a little bee redesigning thegrownupchild.ca.  And I really hope you like it.  The header was designed by Lauren over at Restored 316 Designs and I did the rest myself.  I’m still not completely done but the rest of the changes will [...]

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