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Scars of divorce

I heard this song at work today and I remembered that when it was released, I read that Kelly Clarkson had written it about the impact that her parent’s divorce has had on her since she was six years old.  But when Breakaway, this song’s album was released, I wasn’t as in tuned with all things divorce like I am now.  Today, I […]

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I Don’t Know Why Elin Stayed, But I Get it

by Carolyn on April 7, 2010

I can hear the collective exasperated sigh, “Why, Elin?” He cheated on you. And not just with one woman, but with…what’s the count at now? Oh yeah, thirteen. Thirteen women. You were betrayed by him, played for a fool by him, and publicly humiliated by him. Then, he got to hide out at a rehabilitation […]

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How Does Divorce Affect Children?

by Carolyn on April 6, 2010

  How will my divorce affect my child? A lot of parents out there are asking this question and unfortunately there’s a problem with the answer.  The problem is that the ‘answer’ doesn’t really exist. The professionals don’t know. Two of the leading experts in the field, Judith Wallerstein and E. Mavis Hetherington seem to […]

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Two Steps Forward…

by Carolyn on March 15, 2010

Confession time. I have to admit, I’m kind of disappointed in myself. When I started this blog, one of the first issues I wrote about was my lack of authenticity. How I had lost myself in an attempt to always be fulfilling the needs and expectations of others. Only showing the parts of me that […]

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The Evolution of Trees

by Carolyn on March 12, 2010

Today, families come in all shapes and sizes. Same sex couples with children, step families, single parent households and extended family households are becoming a larger demographic than ever before and their numbers may even be eclipsing those of the traditional nuclear family. We are no longer a culture of Cleavers living as husbands with […]

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A Reconciliation

by Carolyn on February 15, 2010

It feels eerily the same as when I was ten. Waiting for a phone call that’s not coming.  Wondering what I did wrong.  Thinking that maybe the last time we talked I wasn’t nice enough, didn’t seem interested enough in his life, or that maybe somehow I upset him.  That internal dialogue is whispering through […]

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The Dawn of a Decade

by Carolyn on January 11, 2010

I find myself dreading and avoiding that age old, over asked question this January. “What’s your New Year’s resolution?” I usually have one. In years past, I’ve answered with one of the typical and over used options like working out, losing weight, eating right and being organized. But this year I can’t even keep up […]

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Divorce doesn’t hurt? Actually…it does.

by Carolyn on November 20, 2009

Have you ever agreed with someone on a topic only to realize later, after closer consideration that you didn’t agree at all, and you wish wish wish you could go back in time and change your answer? Just me?  Oh. As a guest on the online radio show Coparenting Matters, one of the co-hosts Talibah […]

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