From a grown up child of divorce – practical guides and a place to rant
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Our diversity amazes me. Some of us were very young when it happened. Some of us were school aged or even teenagers. Some of us have watched a parent or two remarry. Some may have even sat through a few marriages. Some got step siblings. Some watched their parents have more children. Although we are [...]
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Are you an ACOD (adult child of divorce)? I am. I think being an acronym is great. If I could have chosen any acronym, I might have chosen something a little more glorious, like a VIP or BFF. But I also could have done worse. I could be an SOB or worse still a POS! [...]
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My parents met, got married and had me. I’m alive today and living a richer life than I ever could have imagined. I’ll always be grateful to them for giving me my greatest gift – life.
My parents got divorced. And I still feel a little sad, angry and hurt by that. I sometimes wonder if [...]
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Most of us don’t seek out conflict. Although there are a few who seem to revel in it’s flurry and rush, the majority desire only peace. But being fallibly human and wielding our free will; conflict is undoubtedly inevitable. We hurt each other’s feelings. We make each other angry. And we certainly don’t always agree. [...]
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A dear friend of mine just pointed out to me that the theme of being closed off or walled up is common among my posts. And I have to concede that he’s right. My best kept secret, From a recovering perfectionist, Splintered and The connected ones all have this common thread. Of feeling like I’ve [...]
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As a child of divorce I’ve lived my life with one enormous fear. The fear of not being wanted. It still haunts me. I’ve seen it haunt others. Like a monkey on our backs that lays dormant for a while but wakes up at the slightest hint of confirmation. I wish it wasn’t so. I [...]
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It hurts my family to know that I never felt like I fit in with them. Hearing or reading this truth is like a knife slashing across their chests. I didn’t realize that until now. Oh believe me, it hurts me too. But I’ve been dealing with that knowledge since my parents remarried. I’ve had [...]
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I am lucky enough to already have a faithful reader and diligent commenter of my work here. And she’s not even a child of divorce! Something about my writing touches her as it has for a small handful of you who have reached out and shared your stories and feelings with me. I can hardly [...]
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I am perfect.
At least that’s what I’ve been trying to convince myself. And I’ve been trying to convince you too. For when I can’t win my own good favor, yours is the next best thing. I am a perfectionist. Which may seem irritating to you, but trust me, it’s downright painful for me.
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We all have our memories. Some are good and some are bad. A million little clips and images that when put together spell out our lives. What is your very best memory? Ok, that one can be difficult. What is your very best memory of your parents?
I think my parents might be surprised about what [...]
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