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The Misalignment of Love

by Carolyn on October 6, 2010

  This past weekend, I had a poetic family moment. You know, one of those greeting card moments where you visualize a leather bound book opening to a picture of the exact scene you’re sitting in. It was Saturday morning and my husband and I were lounging in bed while our son, who as usual […]



How Does Divorce Affect Children?

by Carolyn on April 6, 2010

  How will my divorce affect my child? A lot of parents out there are asking this question and unfortunately there’s a problem with the answer.  The problem is that the ‘answer’ doesn’t really exist. The professionals don’t know. Two of the leading experts in the field, Judith Wallerstein and E. Mavis Hetherington seem to […]



Two Steps Forward…

by Carolyn on March 15, 2010

Confession time. I have to admit, I’m kind of disappointed in myself. When I started this blog, one of the first issues I wrote about was my lack of authenticity. How I had lost myself in an attempt to always be fulfilling the needs and expectations of others. Only showing the parts of me that […]



Feeling wanted

by Carolyn on August 27, 2009

As a child of divorce I’ve lived my life with one enormous fear.  The fear of not being wanted.  It still haunts me.  I’ve seen it haunt others.  Like a monkey on our backs that lays dormant for a while but wakes up at the slightest hint of confirmation.  I wish it wasn’t so.  I […]



Epilogue: My best kept secret

by Carolyn on July 13, 2009

A dear friend of mine just pointed out to me that the theme of being closed off or walled up is common among my posts.  And I have to concede that he’s right.  My best kept secret, From a recovering perfectionist, Splintered and The connected ones all have this common thread.  Of feeling like I’ve […]



My best kept secret

by Carolyn on July 13, 2009

I am my own best kept secret.   If you were to ask people about me, you would probably hear words like nice, stand offish, calm, snobby, funny and quiet.  I’ve always been surprised by how people view me.  Not by the descriptions of nice and funny; that’s exactly what I’m trying to portray.  But the […]



From a recovering perfectionist

by Carolyn on July 8, 2009

I am perfect. At least that’s what I’ve been trying to convince myself.  And I’ve been trying to convince you too.  For when I can’t win my own good favor, yours is the next best thing.  I am a perfectionist.  Which may seem irritating to you, but trust me, it’s downright painful for me. I’m […]



House hopping

by Carolyn on July 6, 2009

Adolescent years are a challenge.  For everyone involved.  Young individuals searching, yearning for their  independence though not yet prepared to manage the cost/benefit scales of life.  Crazed parents hurt by their child’s sudden rebuttals and scared by both their loss of control and their child’s inability to make consistent good choices.  These years are typically […]