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Being an ACOD

I Don’t Know Why Elin Stayed, But I Get it

by Carolyn on April 7, 2010

I can hear the collective exasperated sigh, “Why, Elin?” He cheated on you. And not just with one woman, but with…what’s the count at now? Oh yeah, thirteen. Thirteen women. You were betrayed by him, played for a fool by him, and publicly humiliated by him. Then, he got to hide out at a rehabilitation […]



A Reconciliation

by Carolyn on February 15, 2010

It feels eerily the same as when I was ten. Waiting for a phone call that’s not coming.  Wondering what I did wrong.  Thinking that maybe the last time we talked I wasn’t nice enough, didn’t seem interested enough in his life, or that maybe somehow I upset him.  That internal dialogue is whispering through […]



Maybe I’ve just had weddings on the brain, but it seems like I’ve been reading about matrimony everywhere.  First, I read about the demise of the magazine Modern Bride.  Can you believe that?  The publication has been dropped.  Then Wednesday Martin posted a link last week to the art and story of a second wife’s […]



Cause and Effect

by Carolyn on September 29, 2009

My parents met, got married and had me. I’m alive today and living a richer life than I ever could have imagined.  I’ll always be grateful to them for giving me my greatest gift – life. My parents got divorced. And I still feel a little sad, angry and hurt by that.  I sometimes wonder […]



Suburban turmoils

by Carolyn on September 8, 2009

Love that tagline! Have you ever read Lindsay Ferrier?  If you haven’t, you should.  She writes a column for the Nashville City Newspaper, maintains her blog Suburban Turmoil and has also blogged for Parents Magazine.  This lady is one busy writer.  With her being both a child of divorce and stepmother, I’m always interested to […]



Feeling wanted

by Carolyn on August 27, 2009

As a child of divorce I’ve lived my life with one enormous fear.  The fear of not being wanted.  It still haunts me.  I’ve seen it haunt others.  Like a monkey on our backs that lays dormant for a while but wakes up at the slightest hint of confirmation.  I wish it wasn’t so.  I […]



My best kept secret

by Carolyn on July 13, 2009

I am my own best kept secret.   If you were to ask people about me, you would probably hear words like nice, stand offish, calm, snobby, funny and quiet.  I’ve always been surprised by how people view me.  Not by the descriptions of nice and funny; that’s exactly what I’m trying to portray.  But the […]



From a recovering perfectionist

by Carolyn on July 8, 2009

I am perfect. At least that’s what I’ve been trying to convince myself.  And I’ve been trying to convince you too.  For when I can’t win my own good favor, yours is the next best thing.  I am a perfectionist.  Which may seem irritating to you, but trust me, it’s downright painful for me. I’m […]