In search of me – Day 21

by Carolyn on August 2, 2009

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Looking for this?

Do you care what others think about you?

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1 Tammy August 2, 2009 at 2:43 pm

The answer for me for the most part is no. The general public/ acquaintances, I honestly could careless what they think about me and what I do. My family on the other hand, I do care what they think a bit. Not that I change the way I do things b/c of it, I am just constantly aware of what they maybe thinking or saying.
I have become more worried what family thinks regarding the way I am raising my kids. I have two extremes of child raising in my family one side thinks I am laid back and should be more anal and then the other side thinks I am so anal and uptight. I laugh at it most of the time but I am always aware of the remarks they make about everything I do or my children do. I am just doing what works for our family and me. It is my job now and I take it seriously. So they can think what they may.

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2 Carolyn August 2, 2009 at 11:53 pm

Of course I do. I have spent so long trying to figure out what pleases others and become what is needed and I wouldn’t do anything like that if I didn’t care what they were thinking. I’ve almost always worried about what others are thinking, not so much because I feel the need to gain their approval, but more to assess who it is I should be.

But I’m trying to work past that now. I find myself doing it less and consequently worrying less about the thoughts of others. I’m trying to just be me and let the chips fall where they may. Sometimes it’s easier said than done.

I find what Tammy said about parenting interesting. It does seem that people will always have their ideas about what you should and shouldn’t do in this area. And it’s even more surprising how vocal some people can get. But I agree with you and I tend to be pretty non conforming too. You have to do what works for you and what you believe in yourself to be the right thing. Parenting styles are so personal. A true reflection of who we are.

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3 Frank August 3, 2009 at 11:03 pm

My need for approval was always pretty singularly tied to one person. Aside from that, mostly I just get angry or irritated that anyone feels they have the right to judge me.

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4 Urchin August 15, 2009 at 12:35 pm

I both do and I don’t. I care more about how I THINK people are thinking about me than they actually do. I spend so much time building walls, not to necessarily please someone else, but to be what I think I should be. If I should happen to fall short of that and someone notices… it’s a titch devastating. l get so caught up in being strong, that I forget I don’t have to be that way all the time. I don’t want people to see me as weak. Or think “That poor little Urchin.”

So yeah. yeah I do. Scratch that “don’t”. I totally do.

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