From the monthly archives:

August 2009

I wrote this article for Vanessa Van Petten over at Radical Parenting It was an honor to be a guest author for such a fun and dynamic website! Experts are fairly unanimous in their support of co-parenting for children of divorce.  Both parents continuing to work closely together raising their children despite no longer being […]



News of the day

by Carolyn on August 30, 2009

Well, I have two bits of news to share with you today and the best part is that they are both really great things: The community forum is up! Okay, no more makeshift discussion page.  I now have a fully integrated community forum for you all to participate in.  Have questions?  Need support?  Looking for […]



Feeling wanted

by Carolyn on August 27, 2009

As a child of divorce I’ve lived my life with one enormous fear.  The fear of not being wanted.  It still haunts me.  I’ve seen it haunt others.  Like a monkey on our backs that lays dormant for a while but wakes up at the slightest hint of confirmation.  I wish it wasn’t so.  I […]



The rules of engagment

by Carolyn on August 25, 2009

The good old fashioned argument To fight or not to fight?  That is the question.  But don’t rush to answer because I’m adding another element.  To fight or not to fight….in front of your kids?  Yes?  Or would you go with no? There seems to be two camps on the issue.  The ‘no way’ camp […]



Warren Harold – Alternating Weekends

by Carolyn on August 22, 2009

I love visual art.  If you’re a regular reader here, you’ve probably noticed the images that accompany each post.  It’s so important to me to find just the right one; reflecting the tone and feel of my written work.   I love photography most of all.  I’ve never been very good at taking interesting pictures and […]



Yesterday I read the most interesting article about children of divorce.  It discussed the impact of divorce and the issues that can arise from them dealing with an equal physical custody arrangement.  No new information really, as I happily skimmed along. And then I read it.  And I had to read it again.  All I […]



Who let stepdads off the hook?

by Carolyn on August 18, 2009

Stepmoms have an unfortunate image to shake.  Good old Walt wasn’t kind to them and he helped stick stepmother-hood with a legacy of connotations like wicked, evil, green eyed and (step) monster.  Many stepmothers feel like they’re hated before they even begin.  That no matter how loving and attentive they are or could ever be, […]



The daycare dilemma

by Carolyn on August 17, 2009

I go back to work in less than a month.  My maternity leave is coming to an end and I’m excited to re-enter the land of adults, terribly sad to leave my little monkeys and petrified I won’t be able to balance my life all at the same time. But really, it’s time.  Us Canadian […]