In search of me – Day 7

by Carolyn on July 19, 2009

ripples and reflection

ripples and reflection

I’m guessing this one’s going to be difficult:

Do you believe everything happens for a reason?  Do you believe in either karma or fate?


{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Frank July 19, 2009 at 10:50 am

Yes, I believe that everything happens for a reason. No, I do not attribute that happening to a divine source, or some mystic thingamabob. I believe in the Butterfly Effect. I believe in cause and effect. If you light something on fire, it will burn (if its flammable).

That being said, I don’t think bad people always get their comeuppance, nor do the good guys always win in the end. As much as I wish it were otherwise, I don’t think there’s any such thing as Karma. I think seeing meaning in these things is like seeing Jesus’ face in a grapefruit or the bark of a tree.

I think that nearly everything that happens to you in your life can be attributed to three simple things:

1) Your choices
2) Someone else’s choices
3) Non-human forces beyond anyone’s control (weather, meteors, etc.)

You either make things happen, you let things happen… or they happen whether you like it or not.


2 Tammy July 19, 2009 at 3:01 pm

Yes, I believe in karma/fate. Eveything that has happened in my life both the good and bad have brought me to where I am. And I love where I am.

I agree with Frank that bad people don’t always get what they deserve in this life but it will catch up with them someday. Of course I don’t think that only good things happen to good people. There are a lot of good people out there dealing with a whole list of problems but I would like to think it is just apart of there journey to get them where they should be.


3 Urchin July 19, 2009 at 5:18 pm

What bothers me most about this question is that I really don’t know what I believe anymore. I don’t think most things happen for a reason, but I can’t count that out either. I agree with Frank in that people make choices, and there in lays the pattern of cause and effect. That some unseen hand is guiding everything? I don’t know. I doubt it, but I can’t say for certain one way or the other.


4 Carolyn July 19, 2009 at 8:55 pm

This was a hard question for me.

Because I have had the sense throughout my life that things did happen for a reason. That there was a higher power at work. But then I look around and see. Bad things do happen to good people. People who don’t deserve it. Look at Tammy’s dad. Or the little 18 month old I knew who passed away tragically 2 years ago. Am I supposed to believe that there was some higher purpose to that? That somehow that was meant to be? It’s a pretty hard pill to swallow.

And yet in my life, when one door closed another has always opened, almost as if it had been waiting there for me. After not getting a job I really wanted or after leaving one I did; things always turned out for the better. I don’t know. I’m undecided on fate. It’s a pretty tough question.

Karma I put more stock in. I do believe that the more positive energy we put out, the more positive energy will come back to us. But of course it’s never as simple as that. Like Frank wrote, there’s too many factors. Non-human forces and other people’s choices. But still, is there anything more disarming than kindness?

I think in the end, we steer our own lives….to a point. Until all those other forces factor in. But even then, we always have the choice of how we react to those forces. hmmm.

For me, I just try to do my best. Make the best choices I can. And I take comfort in that. Knowing that the end result may very well be completely out of my hands; but I still did my best anyway.


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