In search of me – Day 14

by Carolyn on July 26, 2009

or is it already open?

or is it already open?

Are you open minded?


{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Angie July 26, 2009 at 1:02 pm

I have such an open mind that I’ve been closing it to please others. And I don’t like it. I started being me about 15 years ago when I had an epiphany: I like me! More recently, however, I’ve been denying my true colors in order to keep the peace at home. I only just realized this recently, although I am sure it’s been in the recesses of my subconscious all along.

In my case, some people see “open minded” as a euphemism for derogatory liberal phrases. As if being accepting of differences and open to the viewpoints of others is a bad thing. So bad, in fact, that I’ve been shying away from just being me, the me that I decided to like only 15 year ago.

To me, open-minded means being open to the possibilities. It means accepting that my “right” and “wrong” are not the end-all-be-all, and that other’s may have a different perspective. My open mind allows me to experience new things without preconceived notions. It allows me to see things in a full range of colors, not just black and white.


2 Carolyn July 26, 2009 at 8:38 pm

You are lucky Angie. I would do my best not to lose or hide that open mind of yours!

As for me, I’m not as open minded as I’d like to be. I wouldn’t call myself closed minded. Just not as open as I could be. I’m almost always open to new ideas and new experiences. I have pretty liberal views. I don’t tend to impose my values and beliefs onto others. But once my mind is made up about something, it’s pretty hard for me to change it.

That’s the thing I would love to improve. And it’s not that my mind can’t be changed. It’s just difficult to do it. You will have to be compelling and have an answer to all my arguments. And even when you’ve convinced me, I might not admit it right away.

Yeah, I’d love to open my mind just a bit more. Because I find that sometimes I am rather black and white. And color is so much more interesting.


3 David April 1, 2010 at 4:11 pm

I can see that in you.


4 Frank July 27, 2009 at 3:13 am

It depends entirely on the subject. And sometimes, items within that subject. I’m open to new food experiences, but I have no interest in foods of a certain texture (gelatinous, jellyfish-type stuff). I’m accepting of other lifestyles, I just don’t want to be part of them.

At this point in my life, I think I’ve refined my own identity to the point where I know what I like and what I don’t and I don’t make many apologies about that. If I come across something new, I’ll usually try it and see where it fits inside my sphere of likes.

Ultimately, I try to remember that nothing is just one thing. The rain that stopped you from going to the picnic today is the same rain that fed the flowers that will bloom when you go next week.


5 Urchin July 29, 2009 at 12:22 am

I like to think I’m open minded, but I don’t know if I’m actually the best judge of that. In some ways I’m not very open minded at all. Like the “Happy Ending”. I didn’t (and still don’t to a degree) think it’s available to me. My mind is “closed” to that possibility, though recently a door has cracked open in that respect.

When it comes to human rights, dang-skippy I’ve got an open mind. It’s all over the place. You can see me happily wandering around PRIDE events, standing up for any and everyone I can. It’s not a “fashion” for me, as it is some.

But I really don’t know. You’d have to ask someone who’s observing me how open minded I am.

Conan for example, says that “Of course you’re open minded. Don’t be silly.” Someone else may have a differing opinion.

[sorry... I'm rambly]


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