Suburban turmoils
Has my parent's divorce turned me into a helicopter parent? Would I sacrifice anything to save my own marriage? Maybe, but then again maybe not. What the divorce generation is doing now.
My newest hero
I never really thought of my mom as a hero. And when I've heard express this sentiment about their own parents I've thought it odd. But my perspective is changing. Changed by seven pages in a book.
When oh when does co-parenting end?
When does your obligation to co-parenting end? When your child of divorce becomes an adult there is no longer a need to work with your ex spouse to decide a visitation schedule or maintain continuity between your households. But that doesn't mean it's necessarily over.
Understanding parental alienation
Parental alienation is terrible, disgusting and equated with child abuse. But as a parent I understand where it stems from. Completely self serving yet done in the name of protection it manipulates vulnerable children and in the end can only backfire.
Top ten ‘divorce’ movie characters
Here are my top ten movie characters who are survivors of divorce. Being either a divorced parent or child of divorce is only one aspect of their character, but it was a requirement to make this list!
Cause and Effect
What have been the effects of divorce on your life. Positive? Negative? A little of both? The impact of divorce on a child growing up is profound. This is how it affected mine. Shaped my life. An undeniable footprint.
The Stepfamily Letter Project
Have you ever wished you could write a letter expressing all of your feelings to your father stepfather stepmother mother stepsibling or any other member of your divorced or blended family? Now there is a place you can do just that. Write your letter and have it posted anonymously on The Stepfamily Letter Project.
The ties that bind
So many of us focus on the relationship we wish or hope we could have instead of appreciating the relationship we do with each other. When we can drop our preconceived notions of how thing ought to be, we can find ourselves open to the wonderment of what is.
The Grown Up Child’s Top 10 Considerations for Wedding Planning
When it comes to getting married as a grown up child of divorce it can be challenging to know what etiquette to follow. Emily Post didn't touch this one! I'm certainly no expert but having been there these are in my opinion the top ten considerations when planning a wedding for a child of divorce.
Welcome to The Grown Up Child!
Welcome to one of the only blogs about divorce issues, written by an adult child of divorce specifically for other adult children of divorce. I hope you enjoy your time here. It certainly has been quite a journey for me in creating this website.
You might be wondering, why? What’s the point? Why don’t you just get over it?
And I’ll be first one to say, I don’t know. But what I do know is that my parents separation and divorce over thirty years ago has shaped my life in ways I’m still coming to grips with. It continues to shape me today. And I don’t think I’m alone.
There are no definite numbers, but the staggering predictions are that over one quarter of today’s adults are children of divorce. A quarter of adults who have been wounded and left with scars we are only beginning to understand. And divorce isn’t going anywhere. It is predicted that right now, there are more children living in broken homes than in tact ones.
As with most good children of divorce, I’ve always kept my scars well hidden. Never wanting to appear to my parents or anyone else as damaged goods. But in the last year I could no longer deny the hurt. And so, I decided to write. I wrote and I wrote and you can find it all here.
So without any further delay, I’ll give you the grand tour:
- Here is my blog. Like any other, it’s where all my articles are published.
- If you want to find out more about me, go here.
- My archives are here. You can peruse them by category, month or simply scan the last hundred posts.
- I’ve compiled a list of my favorite posts here, categorized and each with a short description.
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- If you are having an issue with something divorce or blended family related, why not start a thread on the forum and ask for feedback? I will always respond and your input is considered invaluable.
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Have fun exploring. Whether you are an ACOD (adult child of divorce) looking for a kindred spirit or to share your own experiences, or someone wanting to read what it’s like being a child of divorce, all are welcome. I look forward to our conversations through your comments and threads.
Welcome to my journey.
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